Wedding Cafe or Stag and Doe?

Either way it will be a circus.  How many games are too many? 6 or 7 seems about right, what with loonie toss and twoonie toss, 50/50 draw, Sjoelbak, guessing jar, a hula hoop competition and maybe even corner-shot hockey.

I'm just not sure that my Bride-to-be's friends understand the duality of my personality enough to get what I am trying to go for.  I want a both a swanky cafe, with mocktails and special coffees and teas, and a room full of games.  I want people to dress up and have fun.  I want the cut the stuffiness with some good old fashioned Dutch Sjoelbak.  I want to see people in suits trying to get a puck in the five hole.  I want to wear a goofy hat with my wing tips.  I want both worlds represented in my Wedding Cafe.  I would like to show both of my heritages, and let Christina's shine as well.  My Canadian heritage can be seen in hockey, coffee, the twoonie toss, and probably the guessing jar, while my Dutch heritage shines through in the Coffee, the Sjoelbak, and the desserts.  So coffee is a major thing in both sides, so why not showcase that?  I'm not looking for a harvest festival, or a carnival, or a circus, or video gaming theme, or even a wildwest/country theme, even though those are all things I love too.  I want something that's a little bit country and a little bit city.  Like a sidewalk cafe with a pinball machine in the corner.  Or a gelato bar that serves good Pierogi.  Or a diner that serves out of this world pie (ok that's not really a dichotomy).  It's a cafe.  It's a games night.  It's a me (mario)!

Do we need to give a buffet at the beginning of the night?  Probably, or most of Christina's relatives will be really put off.  I hear they expect food early at any function.  I had not even considered that, I just assumed everyone had tea and cakes at 4 and dinner at 7.  I hadn't even thought of serving a full meal, I just assumed it would be nibbles and appetizers, like bruschetta; and chips; and a meat platter; and little sandwiches; and no soup; and a veggie platter; and fruit; with coffee and pastries throughout.  I would like there to be a few large tables and a couple more intimate tables (like a sidewalk cafe), with chips and cheezies and such on them (like a party).

Now I think I've said nearly enough on this subject tonight, really I just needed to get all of this off my chest.